“Do you like these invitations?” “Sure.”
“What do you think about the venue?” “Great.”
“Think we should have a cake?” “If you want.”
These “conversations” sound familiar?
The groom kinda gets a tough go when it comes to weddings, sometimes deservedly so. They are constantly in the shadow of the bride. They are always getting teased during the speeches, they take flack for being seemingly indifferent when it comes to the wedding planning and prep. Usually it is the bride who I am always in contact with and the groom will meet with me when told to.
However, I think what really is happening is that the groom really only cares about one thing: spending the rest of their life with the person they love.
The groom from this wedding got the typical roasting for all the above reasons and he took it all in stride. However, as we were walking to get a portrait done he turns and softly says”I haven’t really asked for anything, but can I just have this one shot?”
This was one of the most thoughtful and considerate photos I have ever taken.
It’s not that he didn’t care, he simply knew what mattered most.